How To Change Negative Thoughts

I tell you simply “don’t think of the color red.” What do you do? I guarantee you just thought of the color red! In fact, the idea of NOT thinking of the color red is a failed experiment because you already did it! This sounds like a silly exercise but is actually quite profound.

We do this to ourselves ALL THE TIME. Many times in negative ways.

We force ourselves to feel different about the world, ourselves, relationships, our thoughts, our behaviors, even our bodies. We force ourselves to be happy when we are sad. We force ourselves to be comfortable when we are scared. We force ourselves to “get over” a death or loss of a job. We force ourselves to change.

Why? Why would we do this to ourselves?

We do it because we have learned it; we learned it through life in itself.

We have learned to tackle life by the way life has tackled us.

“Hurt” people will hurt people.

You cannot heal yourself or the world in this manner. You must break the insanity and do something different!

Stop the hurt with love, acceptance, and kindness.

When you make a mistake and someone supports you and helps you learn…

Do you grow? Do you feel more confident?

Of course you do! That is the trick!

Treat yourself with patience, kindness, and love. Treat the negative action, behavior, and/or thought with love.

However this does not mean you bury your head in the sand and keep up the negative behavior!

Loving something does not mean condoning it. It simply means holding space.

Show compassion towards yourself for making a mistake, recognize you want to change, and take the best action to get there!

Love your thoughts. You will love you. Because you are your thoughts!

See through the behavior; see through the thought. And do something different.